Sensual Sex: ASMR Sex
When you think of ASMR (autonomous sensory meridian response), you probably don't think of sex right away. Most likely because if you search the term on social media, you'll find videos of content creators whispering, tapping their nails on a microphone, or even crackling a bag of chips. In other words, it is not inherently sexual; rather, it is frequently used to help people relax or relieve anxiety. However, just because ASMR isn't specifically for sex doesn't mean you can't use it to improve your sex life.
"People susceptible to ASMR's effects report tingling sensations on the head and neck, as well as feelings of euphoria, relaxation, and mood elevation," according to a study published in the National Library of Medicine. When this effect is combined with sex, you can only imagine how mind-blowing the orgasms may feel.
So, to help you understand what ASMR sex is and how to incorporate it more frequently into your sex life, we spoke with experts who explained why ASMR sex is the sex to have.
What Exactly Is ASMR Sex?
ASMR sex, according to sex educator Suzannah Weiss, is a type of sex that incorporates ASMR triggers, such as sounds and sensations that create a "pleasant tingling feeling" for the receiver. This could be accomplished by whispering inappropriate things into your partner's ear, scratching their back, or massaging their scalp with your fingernails, among other things.
Weiss claims that ASMR will improve your sex life by making you feel more relaxed. "Because ASMR is calming to many people, those who find it difficult to relax in the bedroom may find it easier to relax." ASMR sex can also "emphasize the sensory experience and draw attention to subtle aspects of sex that might otherwise be overlooked," according to licensed psychologist David Helfand, PsyD. Essentially, it may make sex more intense and intimate.
What Exactly Are ASMR Sex Sounds?
According to Dr. Helfand, "anything that uses a specific sense and turns you on" counts. Here are a couple of examples:
- Moaning
- Whispering in the ear of your partner
- Hearing the condom wrapper being opened
- Hearing your partner's lubrication against your body
- Smelling your partner's scent at their neck crevice
- Scratching your partner's back with your nails
- Scalp massage for your partner
How Can ASMR Sex Be Incorporated Into Your Sex Life?
If certain ASMR triggers turn you on, this type of sex does not have to be reserved solely for a partner; it can be incorporated into your masturbation play. For starters, there are numerous audio porn apps available that focus on the aural fixations of sex. Weiss also suggests searching "ASMR sex" on YouTube to hear breathy sex noises to get off to, or visiting a website like FrolicMe, which has a library of ASMR porn videos with ASMR-inspired features such as actors whispering their fantasies while masturbating.
You basically want to amplify the ASMR sex sounds listed above for partnered sex. There's no need to fake anything, but don't be afraid to moan or dirty talk in your partner's ear. For example, as foreplay, you can take your time rubbing each other's bodies while whispering dirty things in your partner's ear. It all comes down to what feels right for you and your partner.
Dr. Helfand recommends that you explore each other's bodies, provide feedback on what you like and dislike, and repeat the process so that you can expand and explore new experiences together.
Just keep in mind that, while incorporating ASMR sounds may seem like a no-brainer to you, not everyone is capable of experiencing or finding ASMR reactions sexy. As a result, Weiss advises against forcing it with your partner or attempting to make it sexual if it isn't. Discuss boundaries with your partner ahead of time to ensure you're on the same page about what you want to try and what doesn't.
How popular is ASMR and why do people like ASMR?
So you may be wondering if people do participate in ASMR, even if it may not actually affect them in the way that those who truly experience it feel.
And what does that all even mean?
It means that ASMR videos, or the act of ASMR, can be a stress-relieving tool. It is beginning to show its roots in helping people with insomnia, improving mood, and counteracting any feelings of loneliness.
And people are loving it. There are over 13 million videos on YouTube that have people creating experiences that could potentially stimulate someone to experience ASMR if they have it. However, some may think these videos are a bit weird.
In these videos, there can be anything from someone whispering with just a blank screen. Or it may be someone scratching their nails across a book cover or different baskets. And some are even role-plays of the real experience of being at a doctor’s office and getting a check-up or getting a haircut.
Things to keep in mind when trying ASMR sex
If you are new to trying out ASMR sex, it’s important to talk to your partner about what you like and don’t like, and it’s just as important to listen to your partner tell you the same. Who knows? ASMR sex may even start to open you up to more experiences in the bedroom.
Thinking about trying ASMR sex?
The first thing you want to do to try out ASMR is to find your triggers. Pay close attention to what you feel in various situations, especially with what you see, taste, touch, or smell.
Finally, let's enjoy ASMR Sex together!
You can also try out the ASMR videos online. If you have tingling reactions to these that start at your head, you are most likely having an ASMR reaction. And if you don’t, it could possibly calm you and relax you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ZmXVkuPrTc&t=917s
